I’ve been thinking about a problem we humans have. I can express it in a formula:
Fight or flight response
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Triggering media
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Safest time ever to be a human
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Extremely illogical behavior
Let’s pick that apart:
Fight or flight response
The fight or flight response is a very important function of our “lizard brain.” It’s what gets you to stop and fight when there’s a threat you can manage, or run like heck otherwise. It floods your body with adrenaline, gets your heart pounding, sends oxygen to your muscles, and leaves you totally exhausted and drained when it’s over.
We humans obviously needed this in the past. When faced with a hungry lion, we needed to be able to bypass our pre-frontal cortex “professor brain” and act quickly. But although fight or flight is very useful in situations of physical danger, it’s become maladaptive for modern times.
+ Triggering media
A lot of what modern media does is to tap into our lizard brains. Youtube cranks, 24-hour news, and social media all benefit when our hearts are pounding and we are full of emotion. They don’t do so great when we’re feeling calm and rational, because that’s the time when we’re more likely to want to hang with friends or take a nice walk.
The reason we like to be triggered by scary movies, news that makes us angry, or reading about the latest insults being traded by a comedian and a Fox News host is that it feels good. Our fight or flight response is set up to give us a huge payoff if we respond appropriately. Why? So that we feel up to doing it again if we need to.
So we like triggering media precisely because it makes us feel like we’ve been chased by a lion… and lived to tell the story.
+ Safest time ever to be a human being
This is a really hard one to get through to people. We are living in the safest time ever to be a human being. Don’t take my word for it. Read the numbers! Even with Covid, we’re still better off than we were (especially before the invention of antibiotics and vaccines).
And the things we’re actually scared of—sharks, strangers, earthquakes—are actually not that dangerous. Take a look:
Causes of Death in Comparison
= Extremely illogical behavior
There was a burglary on my block. As is often the case, the criminals were not the brightest of bulbs. They were caught because, um, they left the iPhone they stole from the house ON and it was pinging their location all the way to Nevada.
Oops.
But that doesn’t stop my neighbors from worrying that the endtimes are nigh, and shouldn’t we be recording the license plate of everyone who drives onto our street? Unfortunately, systems like that result in way more harm to innocent people than they do to criminals being thwarted.
When our children were little, we were the only family on our block that allowed our kids to play outside alone. We do not live in a war zone! (In fact, people in war zones often allow their kids to play outside. What choice do they have?)
Our country was much more dangerous in the 1970s, when my husband’s parents let him ride his bike over the George Washington Bridge into Manhattan and my parents didn’t ask to meet the parents of kids I visited. Yet parents now seem to believe that a child-snatching stranger is always hiding in the bushes.
We’re suffering from maladapted flight-or-flight, and we have to consciously resist
Yes, bad things happen. But bad things don’t stop happening when you shut yourself into a padded room. That’s how you make sure that a bad thing really will happen: You will be stuck in a padded room!
Yes, the human population is currently being ravaged by an awful disease. But the fact that someone was probably killed in a car accident near you in the last week doesn’t stop you from driving. The fact that multiple people near you died of heart disease doesn’t stop you from reaching for that éclair. Our media is terrifying us, and it feels good. The only way we can stop it from feeling so good is by resisting consciously.
Yes, the future of our beautiful planet is currently a bit bleak. But people who focus on bleakness, who revel in the human attraction to fatalistic, negative thinking, don’t get stuff done. And right now, we need people to Get Stuff Done. Global climate change is terrifying, and it’s making us freeze in place. We need to resist that urge and move forward.
- Resist by being informed
- Resist by being educated (and not by the University of Google, but by experts in their respective fields)
- Resist by learning ways to calm yourself and practicing all day every day
- Resist by being open and loving toward other human beings
- Resist by not going immediately to fear-based decision-making
