Recognizing childhood asthma – do you know the signs?

With this year’s entry into the flu season early, we’re already well into the yearly spike in hospitalizations for kids with breathing problems. Reflecting on a friend’s recent experience and our learning curve with our ten-year-old’s asthma, I thought it might be useful for parents who don’t think that their kids have asthma to educate themselves. If you have a child under five, I hope this helps you be alert to the possibility that your child will have breathing problems sometime during this flu and cold season.

What is asthma?

Asthma is when the air pathways from the lungs seize up due to a trigger: an allergen, exercise, or an infection. Asthma looks like the person is having trouble breathing in – it’s actually the case that the air has trouble going out. Asthma comes in many flavors, from an occasional bout with wheezing to a dangerous, persistent problem that follows the person through life. Some children outgrow asthma; others continue to have breathing problems as adults.

People with asthma may or may not have audible wheezing. They may or may not cough as a result of it. As in all things, each person’s body reacts slightly differently.

Recognizing asthma

Our son had a couple of bouts of wheezing when he was little before we recognized it for what it was. My husband had severe childhood asthma, but it just didn’t cross our mind that our healthy little boy had it. Then we ended up in the emergency room and spent the night in the hospital. That was enough to get us educated.

If your small child’s cold or flu always descends into a cough, pay special attention to her breathing. Here are some simple diagnostic techniques:

  • Watch your child breathe without a shirt on. The little indentation at the bottom of the neck, where the collarbone comes together, should not suck in visibly when the child is breathing. If it does, this is one possible indication of breathing problems.
  • Similarly, look at the spot at the top of the stomach where the ribcage comes together. If this spot sucks in visibly during normal breathing, take note.
  • Take note if your child is panting after normal exercise or gasping while talking.
  • Have your child take a big breath and blow out hard. Pretend that they’re blowing you over – this always goes over well with little kids. A kid whose lungs are seizing up will probably cough when blowing out hard.
  • Listen with the naked ear to your child’s chest. If you can hear noise, call the doctor.
  • Buy a cheap stethoscope. Ask your doctor or nurse to show you where to listen. Wheezing sounds like popping, creaking, or sighing noises in the lungs.
  • Always call the doctor if you think your child is wheezing, no matter what.

Treating asthma

Asthma is serious: over 4000 Americans die of its complications every year. When we brought our son to the emergency room, we checked in behind a man whose daughter was holding a bloody cloth to her head. She had fallen, lost consciousness, then thrown up upon waking. Who did they take in first? My son.

When a child is wheezing, it needs to be treated immediately. These treatments are therapeutic and stop the wheezing. The medicine is used to stop the reaction immediately so that air can enter the lungs.

Other asthma treatments are preventative. One therapy is to remove the triggers from the environment. When our son was small, we found out about a free asthma home visit program through the state. A wonderful consultant came and helped us set up the best environment for our son’s health. It was great, though at the time the program was being cut and I don’t know if it exists anymore.

The medication that has changed my son’s life is an inhaled steroid that helps his lungs from reacting in the first place. He takes a dose so small that it doesn’t even register on the longterm side effects chart, and it keeps him out of the hospital. I know that parents have reservations about steroids, but these drugs are well documented and are far less risky than rushing to the hospital in the middle of the night. It also changes your child’s life from a child who is sickly to a child that is well most of the time.

Who gets asthma?

When you were a child, asthmatic kids were probably those kids with other illnesses, especially severe allergies, who looked sick. These days, asthma continues to grow due to a large variety of factors. You can’t tell a child with asthma by looking at him. Even if both parents never had asthma, your child could have breathing problems. It’s worth watching and asking your doctor if you have any suspicions at all. It wasn’t until my friend’s daughter was hospitalized that she realized that her daughter had been showing symptoms. In the everyday busy life of a parent, these small indications might easily get overlooked until the situation is dangerous.

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Helicoptering, hovering, and hyperextending, but holistically

From Time Magazine

Someone forwarded me the cover story from Time Magazine this week and asked for my opinion. In summary, it’s about what some are seeing as a trend in parenting, the trend already dubbed “helicopter parenting” and made famous by Lenore Skenazy, the author of “Free Range Kids.” Parents who parent too much, who hover and worry and overprotect to the point of smothering their kids.

I had two reactions. One is my usual reaction to any mass journalistic attempt to generalize: individuals just aren’t general. So yes, you can generalize a trend, but when you ask people whether it applies to anyone they know, they’re likely to say, well, not really.

On the other hand, yes, really. We all know the parents that she’s talking about. Here in Santa Cruz County, we have a sort of “two sides of the railroad tracks” split in the parent community, as far as I can see. The helicopter parents are generally on the other side from me. The ones who obsess about getting their child into the right preschool when the child’s in utero, who get their preschoolers tutors so they can be sure to get into the right private school, who hire clowns for their kids’ birthday parties and won’t let them go outside alone…

Oh, wait, I know people in that last category. So perhaps it’s not such a clear split, but you know what I said about generalizations above. I don’t personally know anyone who fits the description to a T, but yes, I do know people who pamper their kids past believability (from my 70’s Midwest childhood perspective), and I do know people who smother their kids, who expect ridiculous things from their kids. So it’s hard for me to say whether I think the article is so much on target or whether it takes what we’re worried about as parents right now and gives us something new to worry about.

However, there are some great passages. This one is one I could have written:

But too many parents, says Skenazy, have the math all wrong. Refusing to vaccinate your children, as millions now threaten to do in the case of the swine flu, is statistically reckless; on the other hand, there are no reports of a child ever being poisoned by a stranger handing out tainted Halloween candy, and the odds of being kidnapped and killed by a stranger are about 1 in 1.5 million. When parents confront you with “How can you let him go to the store alone?,” she suggests countering with “How can you let him visit your relatives?” (Some 80% of kids who are molested are victims of friends or relatives.) Or ride in the car with you? (More than 430,000 kids were injured in motor vehicles last year.) “I’m not saying that there is no danger in the world or that we shouldn’t be prepared,” she says. “But there is good and bad luck and fate and things beyond our ability to change. The way kids learn to be resourceful is by having to use their resources.” Besides, she says with a smile, “a 100%-safe world is not only impossible. It’s nowhere you’d want to be.”

OK, I admit: I have actually said to someone, “If you’re worried about your child being abducted by someone, you’d better take a good look at your spouse, first.” (Parents are by far the biggest perpetrators of this crime. Strangers are a distant last after other relatives and friends.) Our paranoia from being able to know about every bad thing that happens to every kid in this country (and many others) has led us to make ridiculous decisions. We would rather give kids drugs for ADHD than let them have ample unstructured, unmonitored play time outside.

I and many other parents I know are curing this problem by turning off the TV, flipping past the gory front-page stories, and remembering to enjoy our children’s childhoods. But that’s a conscious decision you have to make. And yes, like Skenazy, I’ve been the recipient of some flak, most of it non-verbal looks from people of grandparenting age. But we did have at least one friend express shock at our letting our son go out in the (gated, fenced) front yard (on our rural, dead-end street)… alone!

Here’s another quote from the article that spoke to me:

Shutting down your inner helicopter isn’t easy.

No kidding. But for me, it wasn’t the inner helicopter, because like Skenazy, I’m a pretty fact-based person. I was raised that way. I look at the odds. That’s why I’ve never gambled in Vegas, and I only bought a lottery ticket once, as a joke, with someone else’s money. (I won four dollars!!) That’s why I do get my kids vaccinated and why I do put them in carseats but I don’t say no when they want to walk down the street alone.

For me it’s the constant external pressure. Yeah, my eyes do go to those headlines, the one I said above that we shouldn’t read. And I, like everyone else, gawk at the “Amber Alert” sign over the highway. And even more than that, I do notice and care about what my fellow community members think of me and my parenting. The writer of the article tries to make it seem like it’s parents of my generation who are the worst, but I can say I’ve gotten more bad vibes from those of my parents’ generation. Dunno why. This isn’t science, just observation.

When I think of my parents’ job of raising me and my four siblings, in some ways it was very, very easy for them not to fall into these traps. For starters, there were five of us. I remember a time in my life when I continually attempted to run away from home. I’d come home absurdly late from having been out all day, hoping that my mother would run up to me and say, “Finally! I missed you so!” Well, she didn’t. She probably greeted me with, “There you are — set the table!”

My parents did indulge some of our whims, when they had the time and resources to do so. There was a time when my mom would take me out of school to drive me to another town to take harp lessons. She would write me excuse notes that would say “Susana was not in school today.” And finally the school counselor asked me to have my mother put a reason on the notes. My mother didn’t want to lie. I believe the notes from then on read something like, “Susana didn’t want to go to school today”!

But they were constrained in time and money, so I find my response to my son’s asking for an iPod Touch an echo back thirty-five years: “That’s nice, dear. Put it on your wishlist!”

I will close with a last quote from the article, itself a quote, which does sum up the major thing I think the kids today are really missing in most American family life. Brilliance, it is clear, does not arise during a session at Kumon. It comes from exploring your own mind, turning into odd, dark lanes you haven’t gone down before, letting your fingers put together the Legos in ways that are not printed on the package, and most of all, being left alone enough that you come to enjoy it.

If you embrace this rather humbling reality, it will be easier to follow the advice D.H. Lawrence offered back in 1918: “How to begin to educate a child. First rule: leave him alone. Second rule: leave him alone. Third rule: leave him alone. That is the whole beginning.”

Things we teach kids, and they teach back at us

So we were having our semi-monthly veracity talk with one of our offspring. You know the one: It’s not the wrong thing that you did that’s the real problem — it’s the fact that you lied about the wrong thing you did. The wrong thing you did would have wasted 30 seconds of you confessing and us telling you to do it right. The lie you told about the wrong thing you did has derailed our entire evening.

You know the drill.

Then the lesson came right back at me.

So to recap: Last week we started out the week with swine flu in our midst. Son, 10, was vaccinated and then 5 days later exposed. He came down with a mild case. (It takes ten days for the vaccination to reach full strength. Read flu facts here.) 2 days after that, husband got sick. Son was mildly sick. Husband was can’t-get-out-of-bed, gimme Tamiflu sick.

Daughter 6 had been fully immunized because, ironically, it was easier to get an immunization for a healthy child (who could get the nasal, “live” vaccine) than a kid with asthma (who was required to get the shot). So daughter didn’t get the flu. I have never gotten the flu so far in life, as far as I noticed, so I wasn’t surprised that I didn’t get it. (I said this to another mom and she warned, Knock on wood, Suki!)

Knock on wood!

So along we go with our week, and daughter and I go out and take part in our usual activities because, it is clear, we are not going to get sick. Son goes back to school. Husband slowly recovers. All seems well.

Then our daughter gets a little cough Friday afternoon. Then in the evening, a fever.

Back to the veracity problem. I went to bed wracked with feelings of guilt. I was sure that she wasn’t going to get the flu! Could I hide her for the next week? Did I really have to tell everyone that we’d been around? Darn it, she’d roller-skated with The Whole School that afternoon.

To make a long story short, my daughter does not have the flu, doctor-certified. Common cold, bit of a cough, little bit of a recurring fever. But the point is, right after an evening lecturing my son, I was presented with that very situation, in a grown-up way. I was going to have to admit that I’d made a mistake, and my first instinct was to figure out how I could avoid that.

But I have learned that lesson, and I knew I was going to ignore my first instinct. I practiced the e-mail while waiting in the doctor’s reception area. “Dear friends, I know that I told you that we weren’t going to give you the flu, but…”

I was telling a friend at my daughter’s school this today, and she said, “How embarrassing that would be!” Yes, indeed. But I would have grit my teeth and done it. And that, in a nutshell, is the lesson. Not that doing the right thing feels good, but that sometimes it’s uncomfortable and embarrassing and we spend a lot of mental energy trying to wiggle our way out of it. But we know that in the end, it will be better.

A few minutes of truth, vs. all the unforeseen outcomes of the lie. 30 seconds redoing the task the right way. An entire evening hashing out the reasons for telling the truth.

I’ll probably talk to said unveracious child (yeah, I know that’s not a word, but I like it) about this. I do think that we parents can teach our kids a lot by screwing up and then talking about it. Or realizing that you were in a situation in which you really want to do the wrong thing and you know you have to do the right thing anyway.

“Yes, officer, I do realize that I was speeding, but you shoulda heard what was on the radio…”

We teach kids, then they teach back at us. It’s a viscous circle, slippery and rife with occasions to slip up. And here we go again…

Thanksgiving off the shelf

My husband’s cousin sent a link to a very useful site: http://www.goodguide.com/ [See my article about it on Examiner.com]

I enjoyed perusing it, and thought I might find it useful in many circumstances. However, it was a head-shaking, shocking realization to look at their reviews of their “Thanksgiving Food Collection” that they are probably spot-on about how Americans cook for Thanksgiving. There was exactly one product on the list that I have used — ever! Libby’s pumpkin. I do swear by Libby’s to deliver the same old product every time, never disappoints.

However, how about a Thanksgiving like this:

Sara Lee Signature Selections Deep Dish Orchard Apple Pie

Kraft Stove Top Chicken With Whole Wheat

ShopRite Turkey Stuffing Mix

Heinz Homestyle Gravy, Sausage

Amy’s Apple Pie

Shady Brook Farms Frozen Whole Turkey

ShopRite Chicken Gravy

Sara Lee Signature Selections Deep Dish Traditional Pumpkin Pie

Perdue Fresh Turkey

Safeway, Vons Jellied Cranberry Sauce

ShopRite Chicken Stuffing Mix

Shoprite Whole Berry Cranberry Sauce

Honeysuckle White Fresh Whole Turkey

Pepperidge Farm Sage & Onion Stuffing

R.W. Knudsen Cranberry Sauce

Shoprite Organic Jellied Cranberry Sauce

Heinz Homestyle Savory Beef Gravy

Diestel Farms Organic Turkey

Perdue Fresh Whole Turkey Breast

Stove Top, Stuffing Mix, Savory Herbs

ShopRite Beef Gravy

Shoprite Jellied Cranberry Sauce

Stove Top, Turkey Stuffing Mix

My head is swimming. Must be all that sodium and high fructose corn syrup. (Think that’s not in your favorite packaged food? Look again: it’s in everything these days.)

So, OK, I know my family is a bit weird. I’ve always known that. When I was very small I thought that everyone else was weird, but then I got a little perspective and I accepted my birthright. We’re weird, we do what we do and that’s it.

But people, are you really serving Heinz Homestyle Savory Beef Gravy over your Diestel Farms Organic Turkey? Do you really think that there’s any reason to buy an Amy’s Apple Pie or Sara Lee Signature Selections Deep Dish Traditional Pumpkin Pie? Did you know that making a decent pie is easy as…um…pie?

And are you really buying Shoprite Organic Jellied Cranberry Sauce when making a fabulous cranberry sauce involves cooking cranberries (readily available at any supermarket or at your local vege shop) with sugar (not high fructose corn syrup)?

OK, one of my brothers-in-law, I believe, once told me that cranberry sauce ought to have the can lines in it when you dump it into the dish. But hey, get your empty can of Libby’s pumpkin, clean it, pour your homemade cranberry sauce into it, and chill. Come Thanksgiving dinner, voila!, can lines on your cranberry sauce, which cost half as much and has twice as much taste and nutrition, and no high fructose corn syrup.

Sometimes I realize I’m out of touch, and then I know how lucky I am!

So here’s your basic plan for a home-cooked Thanksgiving dinner. It’s all about time-management and learning to delegate:

  1. Delegate everything but the turkey, stuffing, and potatoes.
  2. Stuffing is easy to make.
  3. OK, there are some great things you can do to make your turkey fabulous, but it’s pretty darn OK if you stuff it and stick it in the oven till done. Really.
  4. Real potatoes, please! Again, not such a hard thing once you’ve done it once.

OK, so now I admit the truth, which is that I have a vegetarian husband and have only done the turkey, stuffing, and potatoes part once, when my parents were living in Germany. Usually I’m one of the delegatees: I make pumpkin pie and some unusual appetizer and a vege option for my husband. But my mom makes it look easy, so I’m sure I could do it, right?

If I haven’t convinced you, though, and you must get your Thanksgiving meal in packages, please do go to http://www.goodguide.com/ and find out what you’re really buying when the label says “all natural.”

Health: a matter of faith or investigation?

A friend sent me a link to a blog that had a good refutation of some of the major anti-vaccination arguments. In reading it, more ideas occurred to me about how people make health decisions based on misunderstandings of the scientific data.

So far on this subject I wrote about argumentation techniques, and how many of the unscientific arguments I read are based on fallacies. I also wrote about the scientific method, and why it can handle mistakes and new data when philosophies based on tradition or faith rather than method can’t.

The blog entry that my friend sent me is here, and is worth reading if you want to read more about the specific arguments that he makes concerning a particular anti-vaccine flyer he was responding to.

But I think that the bigger ideas he brings up are more interesting. He points out a few ways that people who haven’t studied science and medicine make mistakes, and why those mistakes might not readily be clear to someone else who doesn’t have a scientific background. I think the information below is well worth considering in how you make your decisions about your child’s (and your own) healthcare. If you are comfortable believing things as a matter of faith, then that’s the only answer you need. But if you truly believe that you want to make the best decisions based on the available information, perhaps this might help.

1. Similarly named chemical compounds are not necessarily similar

We are used to thinking that things with similar-sounding names are actually similar in their characteristics. So we know that Grape Nuts and Grape Nuts Flakes are two cereals that have some similarities. We know that no creator of a poisonous substance would give it the name Grape Nuts Powder, because that would be misleading, right?

In chemical names, however, very different things can have very similar names. Carbon dioxide is a gas that is in the air we breathe in, and we breathe it out in greater quantities. We can sit and breathe in a closed room with no problem. Carbon monoxide sounds similar, but is not at all, when it comes to human tolerance of it. A very small amount of carbon monoxide in a closed room will kill you.

Common misunderstanding: The “mercury” found as a preservative in vaccines. This is ethyl-mercury, and it is present in very small concentrations in vaccines designed to be given to multiple recipients. The mercury that we hear about as a toxin in our foods, specifically some seafoods, is methyl-mercury, and it enters your body through your digestive tract. The two are not comparable — though they have similar names, they are as different as carbon dioxide and carbon monoxide.

2. The same compound will have different effects depending on how it enters your body

A tiny amount of iron oxide (rust) in your food won’t hurt you. A tiny amount of iron oxide entering your bloodstream when you step on a rusty nail will kill you. Water is necessary to life when you drink it. When you inhale it, it can kill you. It’s clear that how you take a substance into your body makes a huge difference.

Common misunderstanding: See the mercury discussion above. Just because eating a substance in large concentrations in our food can be bad for you doesn’t mean that its presence in an injection is bad for you. There’s no relationship between the two (and in the case of “mercury,” it’s actually two different substances).

3. Something that’s good for you at one amount can kill you at another

Here’s a short list of things that we take into our body every day that are good for us, but could easily kill us if we eat it in enormous quantities: water, broccoli, peanut butter, wine… The list could get very, very long. Many of the things we eat have small amounts of toxins in them. Our bodies deal with that. But too much of anything can kill you. Take the well-publicized deaths of college students who drank gallons of water during hazing. Water, the stuff of life, is toxic in large amounts.

It’s true that many medications, household products, and tools of our everyday lives do have toxic elements to them. You can probably find something toxic about almost everything having to do with modern life. But is that a reason to reject it? And does that mean modern life is more dangerous than a pre-industrial life? Definitely not: Just look at our life expectancy vs. 200 years ago to see that the small amounts of toxic chemicals we get are a much better alternative to,  for example, entire villages being killed off by a viral infection. If they’d had vaccines in 1918, would it have been rational to say, “Well, I don’t know about that mercury in the vaccine, so I’m just going to let half of my family die a horrible, agonizing death instead”? The answer is obvious.

Common misunderstanding: The presence of a toxin in a food will always negatively affect human health. It’s much, much more complicated than that.

4. Natural is better than artificial

In many ways this is true, so this is a subtle one to catch. It is definitely true that research is finding that some artificial flavors, colors, and preservatives are more likely to cause behavioral problems in children. It is true that eating a piece of fruit without pesticide residue on it is healthier. But past that, there’s no proof that the natural version of something is better just because it wasn’t formulated out of its distinct chemical parts. It’s dangerous to assume that a chemical made through natural processes is safe whereas the same chemical made by combining other chemicals is not.

It’s instructive to remember many of the natural toxins in our environment: arsenic, lead, mercury. Also, the number of very natural plants and organisms that can kill us: mushrooms, venoms, etc. This is a good page that explains natural toxicity of certain substances. When I was looking for a soy sauce for our family that doesn’t contain the preservative sodium benzoate, which is suspected of causing behavioral problems in children, I found “all natural” Bragg’s Liquid Amino Acids, which tastes a lot like soy sauce. Note that on their page, they say that their product contains “no chemicals,” which is a ridiculous assertion. Cooking is all about chemicals and how they interact.

What they meant to say is that the chemicals released during the process they use were not cooked up together in a laboratory. What they didn’t say is that the result of the chemical processes they use is monosodium glutamate. The initials for that are MSG — in other words, the active ingredient in Bragg’s is the same stuff you find in Asian grocery stores as a white powder. Now, I will point out that no one really knows whether MSG has any effects that are worse than the sodium that we use more commonly, table salt. But food scientist Marion Nestle points out that “the research on MSG is so inconsistent that I can’t make head or tail of it,” and in any case, using Bragg’s is probably no different than sprinkling your food with the powdery stuff. You might know that it comes from fermented soybeans, but your body doesn’t care!

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The cool thing about the scientific method is that all the questions that were raised above can be answered someday. Making blind assumptions like “things that are similar will behave similarly in my body” and “natural is better” don’t lead us anywhere. Always questioning and searching does, in fact, lead us somewhere. To date, it has led us to the longest, healthiest lives that humans have ever lived. It has also led us to quandaries like choosing between small amounts of toxins and other health risks.

But if we continue to question and to demand the analysis of all possible alternatives, we’ll be better off than resting on any idea as a matter of faith.

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