{"id":753,"date":"2022-08-20T18:18:48","date_gmt":"2022-08-20T18:18:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/?p=753"},"modified":"2023-08-27T18:19:26","modified_gmt":"2023-08-27T18:19:26","slug":"taking-criticism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/taking-criticism\/","title":{"rendered":"Taking criticism"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/editedpaper.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-294\" style=\"width:324px;height:215px\" width=\"324\" height=\"215\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/editedpaper.jpg 500w, https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/editedpaper-300x199.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 324px) 100vw, 324px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>One of the hardest parts about being a kid is that it always seems like someone is <strong>criticizing<\/strong> you!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At home, your parent tells you when you&rsquo;ve done something wrong&hellip; or when you were supposed to do something but you didn&rsquo;t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In classes, your teacher tells you when your work isn&rsquo;t as good as it could be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes classes have &ldquo;<a class=\"glossaryLink\"  aria-describedby=\"tt\"  data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;peer&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;fellow student&lt;\/div&gt;\"  href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/peer\/\"  data-gt-translate-attributes='[{\"attribute\":\"data-cmtooltip\", \"format\":\"html\"}]'  tabindex='0' role='link'>peer<\/a> review&rdquo; and other students get to tell you what&rsquo;s wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why is it so hard?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Hearing that <strong>you didn&rsquo;t do something perfectly<\/strong> is always hard. No person can actually <em>be<\/em> perfect, but that doesn&rsquo;t make it easier when we realize we aren&rsquo;t perfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hearing about what we did wrong can be really hard, and sometimes we react in ways that are not at all helpful:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Maybe we get <strong>angry<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Maybe we <strong>deny<\/strong> that the criticism is <a class=\"glossaryLink\"  aria-describedby=\"tt\"  data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;valid&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;having a sound basis in logic or fact; reasonable&lt;\/div&gt;\"  href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/valid\/\"  data-gt-translate-attributes='[{\"attribute\":\"data-cmtooltip\", \"format\":\"html\"}]'  tabindex='0' role='link'>valid<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Maybe we try to <strong>cover up<\/strong> our mistakes<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to accept criticism<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Remember that people don&rsquo;t usually intend to hurt your feelings. <\/h3>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/handshake-46200_960_720.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-295\" style=\"width:316px;height:221px\" width=\"316\" height=\"221\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/handshake-46200_960_720.png 960w, https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/handshake-46200_960_720-300x211.png 300w, https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/handshake-46200_960_720-768x540.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 316px) 100vw, 316px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Usually criticism is offered because someone thinks they can <strong>help<\/strong> (though sometimes they do it badly and hurtfully!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Listen!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>This is the hard part. We usually want to interrupt and defend ourselves, but if we <strong>wait and listen<\/strong>, we allow the speaker to fully express themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Try it on for size<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe a teacher just said that a project you spent hours on needs some more work. Maybe your friend criticized a story that&rsquo;s the best you ever wrote.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No matter what it is, <strong>actually consider their points<\/strong>. If your teacher said it, you should act on their suggestions and see if you agree that the changes improve your project. If it&rsquo;s your friend, do consider what they said and whether it might be worth a try.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why accept criticism?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The thing that makes life and learning exciting is when we see <strong>growth<\/strong> in ourselves. The only way we can grow is to expose ourselves to <strong>discomfort<\/strong>. Even when you think a criticism is ridiculous, trying it out can help you grow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The nice thing about the digital age is how easy it is to <strong>keep old versions<\/strong>. So do it! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Does your teacher want you to do more research? Great, archive a copy of the project you&rsquo;re working on and then power forward.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Did your friend suggest that you give the evil cousin in your story long purple hair? Heck, make a copy of the story and give <em>everyone<\/em> long purple hair!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are working on a <strong>one-of-a-kind project<\/strong>, such as a sculpture, remember that every mistake you make helps you <strong>grow and improve<\/strong>. When we protect ourselves from growth and change, we also protect ourselves from success and real satisfaction in our accomplishments.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the hardest parts about being a kid is that it always seems like someone is criticizing you! At home, your parent tells you when you&rsquo;ve done something wrong&hellip; or when you were supposed to do something but you didn&rsquo;t. In classes, your teacher tells you when your work isn&rsquo;t as good as it &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/taking-criticism\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Taking criticism<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"episode_type":"audio","audio_file":"http:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/Taking-Criticism.m4a","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"http:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/UseAI_KidsLearn-mp3-image.jpg","cover_image_id":"719","duration":"2:49","filesize":"6.24M","filesize_raw":"6544806","date_recorded":"2023-08-27 18:18:48","explicit":"","block":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17,6,2],"tags":[28,38,37],"series":[66],"class_list":["post-753","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-being-a-kid","category-learning","category-writing","tag-learning","tag-success","tag-writing","series-kidslearn"],"aioseo_notices":[],"episode_featured_image":false,"episode_player_image":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/UseAI_KidsLearn-mp3-image.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/podcast-download\/753\/taking-criticism","player_link":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/podcast-player\/753\/taking-criticism","audio_player":"<a class=\"wp-embedded-audio\" href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/podcast-player\/753\/taking-criticism\">https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/podcast-player\/753\/taking-criticism<\/a>","episode_data":{"playerMode":"dark","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/kidslearn-with-prof-suki\/id1703325213","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"rss":{"key":"rss","url":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/feed\/podcast","label":"RSS","class":"rss","icon":"rss.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/7DuOuT1jXWSctSexcdC97s","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"tunein":{"key":"tunein","url":"","label":"TuneIn","class":"tunein","icon":"tunein.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=mECGrb_UsoA&list=PLhcbiKBzJvJLnU2R4q1eSNuE_jBTCm6Iu","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/feed\/podcast\/kidslearn","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"OjxvokJMqM\"><a href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/taking-criticism\/\">Taking criticism<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/taking-criticism\/embed\/#?secret=OjxvokJMqM\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Taking criticism&#8221; &#8212; KidsLearn\" data-secret=\"OjxvokJMqM\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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