{"id":906,"date":"2025-04-09T22:31:50","date_gmt":"2025-04-09T22:31:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/?p=906"},"modified":"2025-04-09T22:31:53","modified_gmt":"2025-04-09T22:31:53","slug":"use-your-tools-dont-let-them-use-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/use-your-tools-dont-let-them-use-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Use your tools\u2014don&#8217;t let them use you!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Most kids in the US now have access to an Internet-connected device&mdash;a phone, a tablet, or a laptop. And they are really amazing! Your device allows you to do things your parents wouldn&rsquo;t have dreamed of:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You can find out the answer to pretty much any question you can think of<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can create music, videos, and art easily<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can talk to any of your friends anywhere in the world<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>You have access to powerful tools, all contained in a tiny box. But here&rsquo;s a problem: Many kids forget that tools are theirs to use, and they let their tools use <em>them<\/em> instead!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How can a tool use <em>you<\/em>?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Imagine you decided to build a box. So you got out a hammer, some nails, and some pieces of plywood. Sounds like you&rsquo;re ready to go, right? But then, your hammer decides that you&rsquo;re building a chair instead!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Wait, hammers can&rsquo;t do that!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But modern devices can. When we start letting our devices tell us what to watch, who to talk to, and what to create, we&rsquo;re giving them a power we&rsquo;ve never given our tools before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why is this bad?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, first of all, <em>it&rsquo;s not all bad<\/em>. I bet you&rsquo;ve had the experience that you&rsquo;ve watched a video and got a recommendation for another video that you really liked. And that&rsquo;s your tool telling you what to watch, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But a lot of it is really bad. Here are a few examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>It&rsquo;s true that you can find out the answer to pretty much any question you can think of&hellip; <em>except the answer could be completely made up!<\/em> <\/strong>You think you&rsquo;re using an old-fashioned tool like an encyclopedia, but the online encyclopedia you accessed has false information in it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>It&rsquo;s true that you can create music, videos, and art easily&hellip; <em>except your tool may be sucking in your attention to the point that you feel like you never have time to create things.<\/em> <\/strong>Instead of making music, you find yourself scrolling through the infinite amount of content that your device serves up. Or maybe you just figure you&rsquo;ll ask <a class=\"glossaryLink\"  aria-describedby=\"tt\"  data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;AI&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;&amp;lt;!-- wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;artificial intelligence, computer simulations that are often created to appear human and usually programmed to assimilate information they are exposed to&amp;lt;\/p&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;!-- \/wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;&lt;\/div&gt;\"  href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/ai\/\"  data-gt-translate-attributes='[{\"attribute\":\"data-cmtooltip\", \"format\":\"html\"}]'  tabindex='0' role='link'>AI<\/a> to make it for you.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>It&rsquo;s true that you can talk to any of your friends anywhere in the world&hellip; <em>except that online communication can go bad so much more easily than in-person conversation.<\/em> <\/strong>Maybe someone from your school starts bullying you using a fake account they made, or maybe someone you don&rsquo;t even know starts bothering you online.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What can we do to be in control of our tools?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">#1: Remember it&rsquo;s a tool!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Every time you find yourself doing what your device tells you to do, whether it&rsquo;s your device serving up content to you, or pushing you to take part in a fad, or connecting you with people you don&rsquo;t know <a class=\"glossaryLink\"  aria-describedby=\"tt\"  data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;IRL&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;in real life (in contrast with communication and interaction online or in a fictional situation)&amp;lt;br \/&amp;gt;Click for more info about this word&lt;\/div&gt;\"  href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/irl\/\"  data-gt-translate-attributes='[{\"attribute\":\"data-cmtooltip\", \"format\":\"html\"}]'  tabindex='0' role='link'>IRL<\/a>, step back. Take a breath. <strong>Remember it&rsquo;s a tool and you can turn. it. off. <\/strong>(So there, tool!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">#2: Get support!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&rsquo;re in a small amount of trouble, the worst thing you can do is hide it. Why? Because small amounts of trouble have a sneaky <a class=\"glossaryLink\"  aria-describedby=\"tt\"  data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;habit&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;Something you do all the time without thinking about it. You can have good and bad habits!&lt;\/div&gt;\"  href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/habit\/\"  data-gt-translate-attributes='[{\"attribute\":\"data-cmtooltip\", \"format\":\"html\"}]'  tabindex='0' role='link'>habit<\/a> of turning into big trouble when you try to go it alone. Say you find yourself watching videos when you&rsquo;re supposed to be doing homework, or you are being bothered online and it&rsquo;s really upsetting you. You need to talk to someone, preferably a caring adult. <strong>If it&rsquo;s too hard to talk to a parent, talk to an older sibling, a teacher, a coach&mdash;anyone who you know has your back.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">#3: Set goals!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>I&rsquo;m a huge fan of goal-setting, and this is a perfect use for it. If your tool has been using you, consider some <em><a class=\"glossaryLink\" aria-describedby=\"tt\" data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;attainable&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;&amp;lt;!-- wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;possible to be done with some effort&amp;lt;\/p&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;!-- \/wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;&lt;\/div&gt;\" href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/attainable-2\/\" data-gt-translate-attributes=\"[{&quot;attribute&quot;:&quot;data-cmtooltip&quot;, &quot;format&quot;:&quot;html&quot;}]\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"link\">attainable<\/a> goals<\/em> that you can set. What&rsquo;s an <a class=\"glossaryLink\" aria-describedby=\"tt\" data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;attainable&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;&amp;lt;!-- wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;possible to be done with some effort&amp;lt;\/p&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;!-- \/wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;&lt;\/div&gt;\" href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/attainable-2\/\" data-gt-translate-attributes=\"[{&quot;attribute&quot;:&quot;data-cmtooltip&quot;, &quot;format&quot;:&quot;html&quot;}]\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"link\">attainable<\/a> goal? Well, let&rsquo;s look at some of the examples above:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Set a goal to check out sources using multiple <a class=\"glossaryLink\" aria-describedby=\"tt\" data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;references&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;&amp;lt;!-- wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;In an article like on Wikipedia, a reference tells you where the author got the information. You can find references at the end of a well-written article and on any reputable website.&amp;lt;\/p&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;!-- \/wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;&lt;\/div&gt;\" href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/references\/\" data-gt-translate-attributes=\"[{&quot;attribute&quot;:&quot;data-cmtooltip&quot;, &quot;format&quot;:&quot;html&quot;}]\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"link\">references<\/a>. <\/strong><br>So if you read something in a chat thread, check it out. <em>In general, you simply can&rsquo;t trust a piece of information that a single person spreads online, but you can trust information on websites where they have a process of <a class=\"glossaryLink\" aria-describedby=\"tt\" data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;verification&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;&amp;lt;!-- wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;The process of checking information to make sure it&amp;#039;s correct.&amp;lt;\/p&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;!-- \/wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;&lt;\/div&gt;\" href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/verification\/\" data-gt-translate-attributes=\"[{&quot;attribute&quot;:&quot;data-cmtooltip&quot;, &quot;format&quot;:&quot;html&quot;}]\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"link\">verification<\/a>.<\/em> So don&rsquo;t trust a &ldquo;news&rdquo; website that never admits they&rsquo;re wrong; do trust a news website that publishes their errors and corrects their articles. Don&rsquo;t trust a &ldquo;wiki&rdquo; where anyone can post anything they like; do trust, for example, Wikipedia, to try to verify the information on their pages. Don&rsquo;t trust some person who made a video; do trust PBS Kids, Ted-Ed, or other <a class=\"glossaryLink\" aria-describedby=\"tt\" data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;reputable&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;&amp;lt;!-- wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;A source that can be trusted as being truthful.&amp;lt;\/p&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;!-- \/wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;&lt;\/div&gt;\" href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/reputable\/\" data-gt-translate-attributes=\"[{&quot;attribute&quot;:&quot;data-cmtooltip&quot;, &quot;format&quot;:&quot;html&quot;}]\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"link\">reputable<\/a> video sources.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Set specific goals for creative pursuits.<\/strong><br>Instead of saying, &lsquo;someday I want to learn how to use that video-making app but I don&rsquo;t have time,&rsquo; put it on your calendar! <em>Get a supportive adult to help you find a way to carve out time and hold yourself <a class=\"glossaryLink\" aria-describedby=\"tt\" data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;accountable&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;&amp;lt;!-- wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;To &amp;quot;hold someone accountable&amp;quot; means to make sure that someone follows through on what they promise or plan.&amp;lt;\/p&amp;gt;\n&amp;lt;!-- \/wp:paragraph --&amp;gt;&lt;\/div&gt;\" href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/accountable\/\" data-gt-translate-attributes=\"[{&quot;attribute&quot;:&quot;data-cmtooltip&quot;, &quot;format&quot;:&quot;html&quot;}]\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"link\">accountable<\/a><\/em>. You might have to spend less time gaming, for example, but it will be worth it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Set a goal to connect with people you really like <a class=\"glossaryLink\"  aria-describedby=\"tt\"  data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;IRL&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;in real life (in contrast with communication and interaction online or in a fictional situation)&amp;lt;br \/&amp;gt;Click for more info about this word&lt;\/div&gt;\"  href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/irl\/\"  data-gt-translate-attributes='[{\"attribute\":\"data-cmtooltip\", \"format\":\"html\"}]'  tabindex='0' role='link'>IRL<\/a>.<\/strong><br>When you&rsquo;re online, it can be tempting to form friendships with people who, let&rsquo;s face it, might not be who they say they are. Or heck, these days they might not even be <em>people<\/em>! See if you can <em>find kids in your community who are involved in activities you enjoy, and connect with them online<\/em>&mdash;or just spend more time with them <a class=\"glossaryLink\"  aria-describedby=\"tt\"  data-cmtooltip=\"&lt;div class=glossaryItemTitle&gt;IRL&lt;\/div&gt;&lt;div class=glossaryItemBody&gt;in real life (in contrast with communication and interaction online or in a fictional situation)&amp;lt;br \/&amp;gt;Click for more info about this word&lt;\/div&gt;\"  href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/glossary\/irl\/\"  data-gt-translate-attributes='[{\"attribute\":\"data-cmtooltip\", \"format\":\"html\"}]'  tabindex='0' role='link'>IRL<\/a>. If you have interests or needs that are different from the kids you know, find organizations that host safe ways for kids to connect with other kids who have shared interests. A trusted adult can help you with this.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Then enjoy your magnificent tools!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When I was a kid, if I wanted to make a movie, I would have to record on film, get the film processed, then literally cut the film with a razor and splice pieces together with tape! Now you know why in my whole childhood, I only ever made one film. (It was a film of the Dr. Seuss book <em>The Sneetches<\/em> translated to German, by the way.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My kids got to make videos on their laptops, so they did it all the time. You all are SO lucky to have these tools.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But remember: when you use a hammer, you have a responsibility not to hurt yourself or others with that hammer. And the same goes for your modern digital tools.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Enjoy your creativity!<\/h2>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How can you be sure that you use your digital devices wisely&hellip; and that you don&rsquo;t let them use YOU?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":917,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"episode_type":"audio","audio_file":"http:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/Use-your-tools.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"http:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/KidsLearn-UseYourTools.jpg","cover_image_id":"920","duration":"7:23","filesize":"13.86M","filesize_raw":"14535669","date_recorded":"2025-04-09 22:31:50","explicit":"","block":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[70,69,71,18,72],"series":[66],"class_list":["post-906","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-being-a-kid","tag-art","tag-creativity","tag-devices","tag-internet","tag-phones","series-kidslearn"],"aioseo_notices":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/toolsuseyou.jpg","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/04\/KidsLearn-UseYourTools.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/podcast-download\/906\/use-your-tools-dont-let-them-use-you","player_link":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/podcast-player\/906\/use-your-tools-dont-let-them-use-you","audio_player":"<a class=\"wp-embedded-audio\" href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/podcast-player\/906\/use-your-tools-dont-let-them-use-you\">https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/podcast-player\/906\/use-your-tools-dont-let-them-use-you<\/a>","episode_data":{"playerMode":"dark","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/kidslearn-with-prof-suki\/id1703325213","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"rss":{"key":"rss","url":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/feed\/podcast","label":"RSS","class":"rss","icon":"rss.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/7DuOuT1jXWSctSexcdC97s","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"tunein":{"key":"tunein","url":"","label":"TuneIn","class":"tunein","icon":"tunein.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=mECGrb_UsoA&list=PLhcbiKBzJvJLnU2R4q1eSNuE_jBTCm6Iu","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/feed\/podcast\/kidslearn","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"MBZ5rn0IHB\"><a href=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/use-your-tools-dont-let-them-use-you\/\">Use your tools\u2014don&#8217;t let them use you!<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/sukiwessling.com\/kidblog\/use-your-tools-dont-let-them-use-you\/embed\/#?secret=MBZ5rn0IHB\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Use your tools\u2014don&#8217;t let them use you!&#8221; &#8212; KidsLearn\" data-secret=\"MBZ5rn0IHB\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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